Buffy Summers/Relationships



Buffy Summers had various relationships over the years.

Romance
"Wrong sister. I'm the one who dates dead guys. And, no offense to you, they were hotties."

- Buffy Summers

In contrast to her counterpart Faith Lehane, Buffy sought committed relationships rather than casual dates, but was often drawn to dangerous lovers. While discussing a painful reunion with Angel, Buffy asked, "Isn't that where the fire comes from? Can a nice, safe relationship be that intense? I know it's nuts, but part of me believes that real love and passion have to go hand in hand with pain and fighting. [A vampire suddenly jumped out of the bushes. Buffy barely reacted, casually staking the vampire, and continued on her way] I wonder where I get that from." Sympathizing with her friend's inability to have a normal relationship, Willow Rosenberg stated, "Poor Buffy. Your life resists all things average." Buffy's attitude to romance was dealt with when she decided not to be dependent on men. When again broached of her personal life by a jealous Angel, Buffy admits to him that she doesn't think she's ready for a real, long-term relationship, coming to the conclusion that she wasn't finished growing up yet to be the person she's meant to be, using a cookie analogy. She has since been less active in her personal life that have gone past minor flings.

Buffy was romantically linked to the sarcastic slacker Oliver Pike, meeting him shortly before discovering she was the current Slayer. Although they initially hate one another, as Buffy's superficial valley girl perspective is at odds with Pike's ethic, the two grow closer after losing friends to Lothos and his minions, and Pike eventually aids Buffy in her defeat of the vampire king. He broke up with Buffy because he believed that their relationship puts both of them in danger.

Buffy made several attempts at having "normal" relationships with high school boys such Owen Thurman and Scott Hope, with little success. Instead, she finds herself increasingly drawn to the mysterious Angel, and remains attracted to him following the revelation that he is a vampire. The unlikely pairing of a vampire and a Slayer is often commented on, with Rupert Giles once referring to their relationship as "rather poetic... in a maudlin sort of way." Buffy's eventual loss of her virginity to Angel, which turns him into a soulless vampire, is a metaphor for the real-life situation of a boyfriend who doesn't call his girlfriend the next day. Angel's soul is eventually returned by Willow just as Buffy's final fight with him happens - but it is too late to for him and Buffy must sacrifice the love of her life to save the world. Angel is sucked into hell and Buffy leaves Sunnydale for months to deal with her grief (a cycle repeated by Angel in later years on his own show when he finds out Buffy has died.) Angel is returned from hell just Buffy is letting him go (and is returned on the same spot that she puts the Claddagh ring (a gift from Angel) down. They have an on again, off again relationship filled with longing and passion until they were both forced to come to terms with the reality of their limitations as a couple. Angel realizes he is preventing Buffy from leading a normal life, and leaves town, but returns on a number of occasions when he feels she might need him; though they try to move on, several instances of their future meetings and interactions make it clear that they still love each other and wish they could be together.

Following Angel's departure, Buffy tries to move on by having an impulsive one-night stand with college student Parker Abrams. She is devastated when Parker later ignores her, having only wanted to have "a good time." After recovering from that, she is then pursued by Riley Finn, a soldier in the Initiative. Although Riley sacrifices his career and friends to be with Buffy, he is continually disappointed by her unwillingness to be truly open and vulnerable with him, admitting to a surprised Xander Harris, "Buffy's like no-one else in the world... But she doesn't love me." Riley also feels that he isn't strong or aggressive enough to satisfy Buffy the way that dangerous vampires did, a fact that Spike picks up on, claiming, "The girl needs some monster in her man, and that's not in your nature." Despite his efforts to understand Buffy's dark desires, Riley slowly drifts away and leaves Sunnydale to rejoin the military. Writer Jane Espenson admits that Buffy's relationship with Riley never really had the fire that her one with Angel did, but states that "it wasn't really meant to." Marc Blucas describes his character's one-sided relationship with Buffy as being something most people could identify with.

Buffy dealt with her traumatic resurrection by embarking on a highly destructive sexual relationship with Spike. Spike, desperate to have any part of Buffy that he can, further drags Buffy into the darkness while Buffy uses him as an escape while she is feeling suicidally depressed. After a visit from her ex-boyfriend Riley who reminds Buffy that she is "a hell of a woman", Buffy realizes that her affair with Spike can't go on. She tells him again that she is using him and can't love him and finally breaks it off and takes her first real step towards healing. Their relationship ended on a violent note when Spike attempted to rape a weakened Buffy in an attempt to get her back and convince her that she loved him. Buffy fights him off and tells him this is exactly why she can't trust him enough for her feelings for him to be love. Tortured by his inability to be either a man or a monster, Spike suffers and identity crisis and leaves to seek out a soul. Buffy gradually began to trust him again after he obtained his soul, defends him to everyone and shows support and belief in him even during the time he is triggered by the First. When Spike decides to sacrifice himself in order to close the hellmouth once and for all, in spite of Buffy trying to convince him to leave, they clasp their hands together and their hands burst into a flame, in one of the show's most memorable romantic images. Buffy finally tells Spike she loves him (the first time she used the words "I love you" romantically to anyone in years) and Spike replies, "No you don't, but thanks for saying it" and tells her to leave him, as the hellmouth is collapsing around them.



While Buffy told Angel she might have a future with him some day, she claimed that she was still growing as a person and needed to figure out who she was before worrying about a relationship. Similarly, Angel and a resurrected Spike travel to Rome to find Buffy, Andrew Wells explains: "Buffy loves both of you, but she's gotta live her life." Buffy is supposedly dating the Immortal, who Angel describes as "a centuries-old guy with a dark past who may or may not be evil." In fact, the woman seen in Rome was a Buffy decoy, and the story about her dating the Immortal was Andrew's idea, because he thought it would be funny to play a joke on Angel and Spike, knowing their history of rivalry with the Immortal.

When Buffy creates her "army" of Slayers, a young one called Satsu becomes her closest ally, mostly due to her combat skills. Satsu falls in love with Buffy. When Amy puts Buffy under a sleep spell, which can only be broken by the kiss of someone who's in love with her, it is Satsu that kisses Buffy. Buffy tells Satsu that she doesn't share her feelings. However, the two do end up sleeping together and later comments that she finds Satsu addressing her "M'am" sexy. While Satsu remains in love with Buffy, Buffy explains she cannot return those feelings. The two have sex one last time and part ways indefinitely.

Sexuality


Buffy apparently identifies as heterosexual. When a social worker mistakes Willow as her girlfriend, a flustered Buffy claims, "Oh! Oh, it's not a, a gay thing, you know, I mean, well... she's gay, but, but we don't ... gay. Not that there's anything..." Buffy's sexuality is furthered complicated when she has sex with lesbian Slayer, Satsu. This storyline prompted much discussion about the character's sexuality amongst fans. Buffy insists to Satsu that she is not gay, which does not necessarily make her bisexual, contrary to some fan's beliefs. Buffy identifies her encounter with Satsu as an experiment and nothing more so we can most likely deduce that she is still heterosexual. All of Buffy's romantic relationships however have been heterosexual, and her sexual fantasy about Spike and Angel is one surrounded wholly by phallic imagery.

Angel
"What you've done for me, I can't describe. I can't pronounce. You gave me perfection and you gave it up. Jesus, Angel. That's not just the love of my life. That's the guy I would live it with."

- Buffy to Angel



Angel initially loved Buffy from afar, watching her as she was called to her destiny as the Slayer; this experience inspired him to move to Sunnydale and become a useful ally in the fight against evil. Buffy initially met Angel when he was following her and she knocked him down. She held somewhat of a dislike towards him at first though was attracted towards him, describing him as " dark, gorgeous in an annoying sorta way." Her feelings toward him began to grow however and Angel continued to be drawn towards her as well. Buffy though found out about him being a vampire which caused her to be conflicted between her duty as a Slayer and her feelings for Angel. While unclear of his motives at first, she eventually realized that he was a good vampire and had a soul, which caused her for the most part to move past him being a vampire. They then both sadly agreed that this wouldn't work out and "it couldn't be anything." However despite this claims, Buffy and Angel officially began to go out despite their better judgement, unable to stay away from each other. Soon after on her 17th birthday, Buffy lost her virginity to Angel, an experience which triggered the loss of his soul due to a "moment of pure happiness". As Angelus, he attempted to destroy her life, as well as the world, until his re-ensoulment. Buffy had constantly struggled to kill Angelus, due to the fact that he looked like the Angel she loved and held hope that he would return. Because of his actions, Buffy was forced to send him to a hell dimension to save the world since there was no way she could stop it. Afterwards, Buffy was so distraught and heartbroken that she left Sunnydale for a time and retreated to Los Angeles without telling her friends. After some time, she came back and attempted to move on from Angel though continued to dream of him.

When Angel returned, Buffy took care of him and they tried to be friends, but they continued to be drawn to each other. Spike picked up on this, stating that they'll never be "just friends" and that "they'll be in love til it kills them both." Buffy and Angel come to terms with this especially Buffy who attempts to distance herself from him to no avail. When Angel tried to kill himself, Buffy reacts with desperation and confesses to him that she still loves him very much and does her utmost to convince him to continue fighting. Afterwards, they attempt a second try at their relationship until Angel breaks it off since he wanted a better life for her, believing that he was holding her back from a normal life and moves to Los Angeles. Buffy takes the heartbreak hard, feeling as if "she couldn't breathe" and that she was "trying to keep from dying." Sparks again flew when Angel came into contact with demon blood that made him human again; however, Angel decided that he could not abandon his fight against evil if it meant risking her life and her dying quicker, and prevailed upon the powers that be to rewind time, leaving Buffy with no memory of their happiness together and restoring him to his vampire form. Their relationship then became strained in part of Buffy's relationship with Riley and Angel wanting to help Faith get redeemed which Buffy was adamantly against. However, after a heated argument in Los Angeles, Angel comes to Sunnydale to apologize and Buffy is grateful and they get on good terms again. Angel appears again to comfort Buffy after her mother's death but leaves soon after to avoid sleeping together again, much to the pain of both of them. After Buffy's resurrection, Angel and Buffy met somewhere off-screen, both feeling the need to see each other. While not much is known of their encounter, Buffy would later describe it as "intense."

Later, when recounting the painful experience of having to kill him, Buffy remarked that she would have given up everything to be with Angel and that she loved him "more than [she] will ever love anything in this life." On the eve of her final battle with The First, Angel gives her an amulet in order to stop the First and shows jealousy over Spike. Buffy reacts with annoyance at this, telling him that while Spike wasn't her boyfriend, he was in her heart despite it being clear that she still loved Angel at that point. She confessed to him that she does still think about a future with him but that it will be a "Long time coming. Years, if ever." Andrew pointed out that Buffy does love Angel as well as Spike but she "has to live her own life." Angel showed up as a masked villain who orchestrated events for the better part of a year, with the intention of bringing Buffy low so she could be empowered. Angel was working for a mysterious entity called Twilight (as well as Whistler), who has convinced him that he needed to enforce its plan in order to save the world as well as the motive of making sure Buffy survived and stayed strong through it all. After being brought to the brink of despair by the actions of Angel and his minions and by the disastrous battle with the US Army and Angel's forces in Tibet, as well as reeling from the loneliness she had been feeling the entire year, Buffy became a super powered God-like creature, as Angel had already become before. After Angel revealed himself and explains that he is not Angelus, Buffy, out of anger, at first tried to stake him, furious over the way he had tortured her and her Slayers for an entire year and for having been responsible for the deaths of over 200 Slayers, but it appears that Angel cannot be hurt due to his new powers. After a while, she started to feel the effects of the glow (a result of the influence by Twilight) which influenced Buffy and Angel to act on their feelings of lust and love for each other, and lead them to do passionate airborne sex that eventually led to the birth of the new universe, Twilight, which they later find out threatened the existing universe. Twilight has in fact engineered the entire plan in order to bring about its own birth. Angel tried at first to convince Buffy to stay with him in the Twilight paradise, a universe where the two of them could make anything they want happen. Buffy however, refused to believe him, stating that every time they had a moment of peace, something bad happened and that it had to be a trap (Which later proved to be true). He told her it's what she was meant for and while Buffy appeared to find the briefly consider it, after hearing Xander's scream, Buffy fully rejected it, explaining that she had to fight for her friends and family, not personal happiness. Angel eventually agreed to leave the paradise, choosing to fight by Buffy's side instead.

When Spike showed up in his spaceship with a plan how to save the world, Angel was visibly jealous, and Buffy told him that jealousy is beneath him and confessed to him that he's the guy she wants to be with and that she still sees him as "the love of her life."(The closest she ever came to saying 'I love you' to Angel in years). However, she appeared to be uncharacteristically happy considering their sexual encounter caused an apocalypse, implying that the Twilight glow was still affecting her to some unknown level. She also told Angel she didn't trust him but he still had her heart, which contradicted her statement that trust was necessary for love (though this could have to do with the fact that Angel's motives were still unclear at the time). Buffy surprisingly managed to convince Angel to leave and help undo the damage he's done, reassuring him that all she was getting from Spike was information before going off to meet him. Eventually Angel gets possessed by Twilight, tried to kill Spike and fought Buffy to get the Seed. After Twilight-possessed Angel killed Giles, Buffy smashed the Seed in despair, and Twilight's influence was gone.

Angel's guilt has left him catatonic and Buffy, unable to look at him but also needing to make sure he'd be taken care of, leaves him in the care of Faith, in Giles' apartment in London. Throughout the series it's clear that neither Angel nor Buffy truly moved on from one another and continued to still be in love despite their long-ago break-up.

Spike
"Be easier, wouldn't it? If it were an act? But it's not. You faced the monster inside of you and you fought back. You risked everything to be a better man. And you can be. You are. You may not see it ... but I do. I do. I believe in you, Spike."

- Buffy to Spike



Originally enemies, Spike and Buffy became reluctant allies. After having a chip implanted into his head that prevented him from hurting humans, Spike eventually fell in love with Buffy. Buffy was unsettled to discover his growing obsession, especially after Spike kidnapped her and tried to blackmail her into admitting she had some feelings for him, by threatening to have his vampire ex-girlfriend Drusilla kill her, while simultaneously promising to kill Drusilla for her. However, Buffy was moved when Spike withstood significant torture to protect her and her sister, giving him a kiss and telling him that the Buffybot thing he did disgusts her but she wouldn't forget what he did, and they reconciled and fought side-by-side until her death. After her resurrection, Spike was at first the only person depressed Buffy could confide in, feeling disconnected from her friends. When Sweet made everyone in town sing about their deepest feelings, and Buffy revealed to her friends that she had been torn from heaven, Spike saved her from suicide, telling her that she had to go on living. Buffy and Spike shared their first real kiss, which Buffy later regretted, but after Giles left for England, she found herself kissing Spike again. Buffy however rationalized it as a " bad kissing decision" and that she was feeling vulnerable because Giles had left which she had told Spike. Their relationship turned violent after Spike learned that he could hurt Buffy despite his chip, and, frustrated with Buffy's rejections and her treatment of him, provoked a big fight. In the midst of the fight, Buffy suddenly kissed Spike, and they ended up having passionate sex, with the building collapsing around them. The morning after, Buffy was disgusted with herself, despite (or because) feeling that this was the best sex she ever had. She coldly told Spike he was just "convenient" and it was a "mistake". This was a beginning of an addictive and mutually abusive relationship that made both of them unhappy. Buffy wasn't sure why she kept coming back when Spike was "everything I hate, everything I'm supposed to be against". Buffy eventually broke things off, telling him that she can't love him, is merely using him, and it's "killing her." Buffy, while admitting she had feelings for him, stated that she did not love Spike despite his objections. Buffy again told Spike she does think their relationship was real for him and that he had to move on which prompts Spike to have a drunken night of comfort sex with Anya Jenkins. Afterwards Buffy was visibly hurt, which lead to her friends and sister learning about her relationship with Spike. Prompted by Dawn Summers, who told him he had hurt Buffy, Spike went to talk to her, and tried to convince her that she loved him but couldn't admit it to herself. Buffy admitted she had feelings for him, but insisted that she didn't trust him enough for those feelings to be love. In a misguided attempt to connect to Buffy through sex and force her to admit to loving him, he tried to rape an injured, weakened and vulnerable Buffy (who eventually fought him off), then, shocked and disgusted with what he had done, left town in search of his soul, because without it he could be neither man nor monster. Buffy was traumatized by the attempted rape, but was still willing to trust Spike to protect her sister, when she found out that he had left town.

A few months later, Buffy showed concern when she found a deranged Spike in the basement of the Sunnydale school. Despite her conflicted feelings for him after the past events, Buffy was moved to tears to find out that Spike got his soul back for her, Spike's loyalty to Buffy continued after his ensoulment; they developed a strong, meaningful connection. While Spike dealt with the inner demons associated with being ensouled, Buffy offered support and told him she believed in him. Their unresolved feelings for each other were noticed by everyone around them and were a source of concern for Giles in particular, who was worried Buffy's feelings might be affecting her judgment. When Spike's chip started to malfunction, Buffy contacted Riley in order to remove it, convinced that Spike could be a good man and that he won't be a danger, despite the trigger. When the Scoobies and the Potentials kick Buffy out of her own house, Spike offers comfort and support. They spend a platonic night together, and the next day Buffy tells Spike that the last night meant a lot to her and that Spike the one who gave her emotional strength to find the Scythe, while Spike admits that he never felt as close to someone as he did that night to Buffy. They do not, however, define their present relationship. When Spike asks "What does it mean?" and Buffy replies "Does it have to mean something?", Spike, unsatisfied with her answer, replies that it's the time to go and be heroes instead. Later he sees Buffy greet Angel with a kiss and Spike reacts with jealousy and anger. Once realizing this, Buffy is shown to be irritated(similar to how she reacted towards Angel's jealousy of Spike) but points out the kiss was a "hello" which Spike seems to disbelieve. She gives Spike the amulet that Angel brought her, meant to be worn by a champion of the people, and Spike is moved by her belief in him. They go on to spend the last two nights before the battle in the hellmouth together; there is ambiguity whether they spent the last night platonically or if they had sex, and Joss Whedon said he wanted to preserve the mystery. When Spike decides to sacrifice himself in order to close the hellmouth once and for all, in spite of Buffy trying to convince him to leave, they clasp their hands together and their hands burst into a flame, as the hellmouth is collapsing around them, in one of the show's most memorable romantic images. Buffy finally tells Spike she loves him (the first time she used the words "I love you" romantically to anyone since Angel) and Spike replies, "No you don't, but thanks for saying it" and tells her to leave him, sending her fleeing out of the hellmouth to live. Spike chose not to contact Buffy after he was resurrected in Los Angeles, preferring the heroic end and feeling anything after that would be anti-climactic.

It is not revealed when and how Buffy exactly found out Spike was alive. When she did see him again, after just having had Twilight-influenced sex with Angel in space and endangered the world, she was gruff, did not hug him but did thank him for his "studly" sacrifice, but later in his room, while he was explaining his plan to save the world, she had a romantic and sexual fantasy about him, in which she told him he used to be the guy she confided to about things she couldn't tell anyone else ("You are my dark place, Spike"), but Spike wrongly assumed she was fantasizing about Angel, and she was too embarrassed to correct him. Buffy however, brushes off her fantasy as an "after affect of the Twilight glow." Both Buffy and Spike ended up in San Francisco and kept in regular contact. Spike is one of the few people who are supportive of Buffy, which initially causes Buffy to burst into tears and run away so Spike wouldn't see her being so vulnerable. Buffy tries to flirt with Spike at the party she invited him to, but he doesn't respond. When questioned by Eldre Koh, Spike says that he believes Buffy needs someone "normal", rather than a vampire like him. When Buffy believes herself to be pregnant after what she thought was a night of drunken blacked out sex, she briefly considers asking Spike to "run away" with her so they could raise her baby together. But after deciding that she wouldn't be a good mother at the moment, she asks him to accompany her to the abortion clinic and Spike offers her his support. However, when during a battle with the "zompires" officer Dowling' tells Buffy that he thinks Spike is still in love with her, Buffy is surprised and immediately asks Spike if this is true. Spike admits that it is, and tells Buffy that he can give her the "normal life" she wants - but the moment is interrupted when a zompire tears off Buffy's arm - which turns out to be mechanical. As Buffy deals with the shocking knowledge that her mind has been transferred into a robotic body by Andrew at the night of the party (the malfunction of the body causing a false positive pregnancy test), she thanks Spike for being there for her, but finding Buffy's body, meanwhile kidnapped by rogue Slayer Simone.

Afterwards, once the crisis is resolved, Spike comes to a decision: Leave Buffy and attempt to move on. Spike explains to her that he does love her but is never truly sure where her heart is concerning him and he's tired of being jerked around though he doesn't see it as her fault. But before leaving, Spike says some heartfelt words to her, stating that he has faith in her which is how he'll always know he has her back and that "she'll always do right." She does not try and stop him, unable to say what he wants to hear. He then leaves Buffy by his Bug ship, much to her disappointment and sadness.

Other Romantic relationships
"Because--Okay, I'm cookie dough. I'm not done baking yet. I'm not finished becoming whoever the hell it is I'm gonna turn out to be. I make it through this, and the next thing, and the next thing, and maybe one day I turn around and realize I'm ready. I'm cookies. And then, you know, if I want someone to eat--- or enjoy warm, delicious cookie me, then... that's fine. That'll be then. When I'm done."

- Buffy and her stance on her personal life using a cookie baking analogy

Buffy's primary relationships were Angel and Spike. The two have their parallels and rivalries. When Angel and Spike search for Buffy, Andrew Wells tells the two vampires that Buffy loves them both, but she has to live her life. Buffy is shown dreaming a scenario where both lovers are naked and holding her. The three of them are wrapped in chains and surrounded by cupids, and Buffy wears a nurse outfit and is wearing a Claddagh ring (which artist Georges Jeanty added on his accord, as he explained: "Joss had descried the whole scene (in vivid detail) and when I was putting in the little details I put the ring on Buffy. I had it with the heart pointing in because at least in her mind, Buffy was committed to one of them (or both..?)"

Other love interests have been relatively more short-lived, including Pike and Riley Finn, an antithesis to Angel and Spike who was her third longest running relationship.




 * Billy Fordham — Buffy developed a crush on Ford in the fifth grade, but he was a "manly sixth-grader" who had no time for younger girls. They became friends at Hemery High, where Ford secretly discovered that Buffy was the Slayer. In 1998, he showed up in Sunnydale and told Buffy that his father had been transferred and that he would be attending the local high school. In fact, Ford had months to live and was there only to find a vampire leader to arrange a deal: the blood of Buffy and his followers in exchange for eternal life. Buffy was devastated by Ford's betrayal, though moved by his cancer. When he rose as a vampire, she staked him without reaction; the Ford she knew and loved had already died.


 * Tyler — In her freshman year of high school, Buffy gossiped about a boy named Tyler with her friends, immediately before she was called as the Slayer. She said of him, "Oh my God! Where were you when I got over Tyler? He's of the past. Tyler would have to crawl on his hands and knees to get me to go to the dance with him. Which, actually, he's supposed to do after practice, so I'm gonna wait."


 * Jeffrey Kramer — Buffy's vain and popular boyfriend during her freshman year at Hemery High, Buffy and Jeffrey grew distant as she took on the responsibility as the Slayer and he finally broke up with her by leaving a message on her answering machine. He went to the dance with Buffy's vapid friend, Jennifer Walkens, but while the pair were having sex, they were interrupted by a vampire attack. Buffy slayed the demons while Jeffrey fled in only his underwear.


 * Oliver Pike — Pike was Buffy's main romantic interest before arriving in Sunnydale. Classmates at Hemery High, they initially hated each other as Buffy's superficial valley girl perspective was at odds with Pike's working class ethics. However, after both losing friends to Lothos, the two grew closer and Pike aided Buffy in killing the vampire king and burning down the school gym full of his minions. Following Buffy's expulsion from Hemery, she and Pike spent time together in Las Vegas, but eventually broke up as Buffy moved to Sunnydale without him. Buffy later told Willow and Xander that she no longer kept in touch with Pike.


 * Owen Thurman --- A sensitive and shy Sunnydale High student who crossed paths with Buffy at the library where she was there on duty while Owen wanted to borrow an Emily Dickinson book. Buffy became attracted to him and even claimed to be Dickinson fan herself to get his interest, despite only just learning of her existence. The set a date at the Bronze, which she arrived late she was forced into patrol and was disappointed to find Cordelia had made a move on him. Arranging a second date, Owen lent Buffy his fobwatch so she would get the time right. She put off her duties until the time was at its most dire and Owen tagged only, his interest in the morbid making like the idea of breaking into a morgue. In the event, he was almost killed by a maniacal vampire, making Buffy brutally kill it. This vampire-hunting adventure made Owen feel alive. Fearing that such an attitude would get him killed, Buffy broke up with Owen the next day, unable to tell him the real reason why; nor to say that she still cared for him just as much.


 * Tom Warner --- A rich member of Delta Zeta Kappa fraternity, a cult that sacrifices beautiful young high school girls to their demon lord Machida in exchange for worldly success. Tom lured Buffy to a party, pretending to be nicer and less materialistic than his vain fraternity brothers. The leader of the cult, Tom attempted to offer Buffy and Cordelia as sacrifices. The only good thing Tom did is prevent Buffy from being date raped by frat brother Richard Anderson after she feel unconscious after being drugged, though this was for the purpose of keeping her as a pure sacrifice.


 * Cameron Walker --- A self-absorbed and arrogant swimming athlete at Sunnydale High. Initially, Buffy was interested in the good-looking Cameron, who waxed poetry about the ocean. However, by the end of their first date, he made advances on her and wouldn't take no for an answer, so Buffy broke his nose and got blamed for "leading him on" as he put it.


 * Scott Hope — A fellow Sunnydale High student who had a crush on Buffy. Scott asked Buffy out several times. Although Buffy was interested in Scott, she was still overwhelmed by her heartbreak over Angel and repeatedly turned him down. Eventually, Buffy decided to date Scott, but Angel's return from hell distracts her. Buffy and Scott were only together a few weeks; Scott broke up with her because he was tired with dealing with her ongoing preoccupations. He did however agree to give his vote at the time of the Homecoming Dance which she ran for queen. Years later, Buffy learned that Scott had told classmates that they had broken up because she was a lesbian, and had ironically come out as gay himself in college.


 * Parker Abrams — An attractive, older student whom Buffy met in college at the cafeteria. Posing as a friendly, sensitive guy which she could move on from Angel with, she slept with him only weeks after meeting him, desperate for a relationship. Parker was the second person Buffy had sex with. However, he was only interested in having "a good time" and, not wanting a romantic commitment, ignored Buffy after they slept together. Buffy was devastated by his behavior, but maintained a brief hope that they could reconcile. While under the influence of enchanted beer, Buffy saved Parker's life when he was trapped in a burning building. In the aftermath of the rescue, Parker apologized to Buffy for his actions, and she responded by bashing him on the head with a wooden club.




 * Riley Finn — Buffy's main love interest at UC Sunnydale. Buffy met Riley when she started at college. They began a serious relationship after discovering each others' demon-fighting secret identities. Despite this, they did have disagreements over several topics as he took demon fighting as a both noble and enjoyable experience while she informed him that for her it wasn't a job but destiny. They also disagreed over the status of demons as he disapproved of Buffy going to a demon-friendly bar to obtain information and Willow's relationship with a werewolf, Oz. Riley eventually soon got over this and sacrificed his career and friends to be with Buffy, but was continually disappointed by her unwillingness to be truly open and vulnerable with him. Also Riley felt that he wasn't strong or aggressive enough to satisfy Buffy the way that dangerous vampires did. He begins drifting away, and Buffy is repulsed to discover that he has been visiting vampire prostitutes and allowing them to drink his blood to get a rush from the intoxication of the blood loss. Although Buffy ultimately tries to stop him, Riley rejoins the military, where he is able to continue demon slaying, and leaves the country, returning to Sunnydale only briefly to track down a dangerous demon, with his new wife Sam. Riley realizes that Buffy has been sleeping with Spike which causes him to show slight jealousy, but only fleetingly. He admits to Buffy that he does not like seeing her with Spike and even though she has her problems, it doesn't matter. He consoles her by meaningfully telling her that she is still the first woman he's ever loved and the "strongest woman he's ever known", describing her as a "hell of a woman."


 * Ben Wilkinson — Buffy met Ben when her mother was diagnosed with a brain tumor. They flirted a bit during a Hawaiian-themed college party but never dated, because Buffy didn't want to define herself by her lack of a relationship. Also he was one half of a hell goddess, Glory, meaning Buffy had dodged a bullet by rejecting him.


 * Richard - A guy Anya invited to Buffy's 21st birthday party (much to Buffy's dismay), Buffy briefly flirted with him but was distracted by a very jealous Spike who she for the most part ignored. However it doesn't go anywhere as Richard got seriously hurt and was too unnerved by what he went through to talk to Buffy again.


 * R.J. Brooks — Buffy, under the influence of a love spell develops a brief, powerful obsession with this high school quarterback, along with Dawn, Willow, and Anya. She betrayed her sister's trust by seducing RJ in an empty classroom, and almost killed Principal Wood to prove her love to him. The spell is broken when Spike and Xander destroy the enchanted letterman jacket.


 * Satsu — As Buffy trained newly activated Slayers, a young girl named Satsu became her closest ally. Satsu fell in love with Buffy; when Amy Madison put Buffy in the influence of a sleep spell, which could only be broken by the kiss of true love, it was Satsu who awakened Buffy from her mystical sleep. Realizing this, Buffy talked to Satsu, telling her that she was flattered to know she felt that way about her, but was not gay herself. Despite this, Buffy ended up having sex with Satsu, in a moment she described as a "wonderful night" but claimed would go no further. However, Buffy did spend a second night with Satsu as a "goodbye." By some advice from Kennedy, Satsu was resolved to move on from Buffy but was visibly hurt and disgusted when she realized Buffy was having sex with Angel.

Friendships
"A slayer with family and friends. That sure as hell wasn't in the brochure."

- Spike to Drusilla




 * Willow Rosenberg  — On her first day at Sunnydale High, Buffy was shown to sympathize with Willow being a loner and school outcast, especially after Cordelia Chase had cruelly bullied her. She had immediately tried to be friends with her, but then realized that she couldn't hang out with her and Cordelia. She gave her advice on dating and saved her life from vampires, which is when they started to bond. Buffy and Willow became best friends, even sisterly, and when stumbling on magics of how to re-ensoul Angel, she had heartily agreed, wanting to bring Angel back for Buffy. Over the years they develop a extremely close, tight bond and have risked their lives for each other on many occasions. When Willow had realized that Angel returned from hell and Buffy was taking care of him, she was not judgmental or angry like the others, seemingly only worried about Buffy's well-fare. Willow was also there for Buffy when Angel broke up with her, feeling angry at Angel for hurting her but also believed he was right to leave her. Both enrolled in UC Sunnydale, Buffy felt great sympathy for Willow when Oz left her, likening it to what she went through with Angel and stood by her in time in need, encouraging her and comforting her. Willow was also very protective of Buffy when she realized Riley carried an interest in her, giving him advice but also warning him if he emotionally hurt her, "she would beat him to death with a shovel." However, Buffy and Willow grew distant from each other, as Buffy was so focused on her new relationship with Riley that she grew apart from her friends; which Spike took advantage of, turning her friends against Buffy as ordered by Adam in order for his chip to be taken out. Unsettled by how easily Spike had broke them apart, Buffy promised to Willow and her other friends to "never not talk again." Willow also apologized for keeping her relationship with Tara a secret to Buffy and everyone else, making peace with each other. When Buffy had died, Willow was distraught even to resurrect Buffy as she had never considered any other option at the time, and was at first happy that it worked in the end but felt new found guilt that she had ripped her from Heaven. Buffy had at first kept it as secret to everyone except Spike, as she didn't want to burden them with guilt, though a part of her resented her friends for bringing her back. When reminiscing about bringing Buffy back years later, Willow admitted that she had never, even for a second, regretted bringing Buffy back, but sadly thinks she wouldn't say the same about it. When told by Tara that Buffy had been sleeping with Spike, she was not angry; just confused and concerned over it, unlike Xander. After Tara was murdered and Willow turned dark, she was scornful and cruel towards Buffy, even resulting in a full-out fight with her. After Willow was stopped from destroying the world, Buffy in the end forgave a guilt-ridden Willow, renewing their friendship with continued support and faith in her from Buffy. In the end, Buffy freely admitted Willow being one of the strongest people she knew and she helped her create slayers all throughout the world by putting power through the scythe. A year and a half after the destruction of Sunnydale, the two became so close that Willow was able to share her power with Buffy. Despite Buffy's lesbian experience, both women (loudly) insisted that they are not attracted to each other, but this did not stop Kennedy from being suspicious when the duo shared a hug after Buffy's return from the future(Ironically, in a possible future, Buffy was the one to finally end Willow's life). At one point, Willow also curiously asked Satsu what Buffy was like in bed, but Satsu refused to answer, too embarrassed. Following the end of magic, Willow disapproved of Buffy's decision to destroy the seed, believing the Earth to be dying without magic. Buffy was upset by this and they grew apart a little, until Willow admitted to Buffy that she was never angry with her for destroying the seed and Buffy insisted that they will bring magic back to the world.




 * Xander Harris — Although Buffy did not return Xander's romantic feelings for her, she once flirted and danced seductively with him, although she later confessed that this was an attempt to make Angel jealous. Later, under a love spell, Buffy attempts to seduce Xander in the school library. When the love spell is broken, she is grateful that Xander did not take advantage of the situation. Also, 1775 Buffy found Xander more attractive than Angel. Eventually, Xander moved past his feelings for Buffy but remained fiercely loyal and protective to her. Buffy and Xander develop a very close, strong friendship, Xander being one of her best friends besides Willow. Upon the disastrous affair with Parker, Xander had tried his utmost to comfort her with little success. Later, Xander had also gave advice concerning her relationship falling apart with Riley but it was too late at that point. When Buffy realized that Spike had an unsettling obsession with her, she began to wonder if something was wrong with her and seemed very dismayed with her personal life. Xander, however, comforted her, insisting that there was nothing wrong with her and that if she was just Buffy, someone would see her amazing heart and fall in love with her and Buffy, touched at his words, hugged him. She had also danced with Xander playfully at a party in an effort to cheer her up, which had helped her feel better. Buffy and Xander's relationship became strained however when Xander had discovered that she had been sleeping with Spike, feeling hurt and angry that Buffy hadn't trusted him enough to tell him. Buffy insisted that he didn't want to know anyway and that it was none of his business. However, they made peace when Xander acknowledged that he wouldn't have reacted positively if she told him earlier anyway and how hard it has been since her resurrection, but Buffy soon after was shot by Warren Mears. Xander was seen immensely worried over her and was very relieved when she survived. Xander was also protective of Buffy and held great distrust towards Spike, upon the discovery that he had attempted to rape her. During the battle with The First, when being criticized by the Potentials, Xander had spoke up and defended Buffy, saying that he had seen her kind and caring heart, and that she cares about them more than they will ever know. Buffy herself has stated the Xander is someone she trusts completely and with her life. While just close friends there are comments made in a dream of Buffy's referring to a sexual relationship between them, with Buffy going as far as to proposition and kiss him before the dream wackiness escalates. Buffy begins to realize she has feelings for Xander but she is too late as he has started a relationship with her sister Dawn. When Buffy confesses to Xander, he doubts the strength of her feelings, noting that she went through a lot of romantic possibilities including experimentation with Satsu before settling on her best friend. Buffy is upset and regretful over this, but understands his feelings. Following the end of magic, Buffy and Xander's friendship appears to be slightly deteriorating and more distant than before, causing Buffy to feel isolated.




 * Cordelia Chase  — Initially, Buffy and Cordelia were on friendly terms, as Cordelia had let her borrow her history book and asked her to join her clique because of her fashion sense. Buffy though disapproved of Cordy's treatment of Willow and according to Willow, "could not legally be friends with a nerd (Willow) and a popular (Cordelia)", much to Buffy's confusion. This friendliness quickly ended when Buffy had accidentally held Cordelia by a stake, believing her to be a vampire and afterwards Cordelia had decided to "call everyone she had ever met", consequently destroying Buffy's popularity. She then started acting arrogantly to Buffy constantly, thinking she was weird, causing Buffy to develop a medium dislike of her. When joining the Scooby Gang, Cordelia became nicer to her, as she had asked Buffy to accompany her to the Delta Zeta party, claiming that their sisters with "really different hair."(Which is true. Their personalities are somewhat similar and their relationship reflected that of bickering sisters). Despite this and the numerous times Buffy saved her, Cordelia still criticized Buffy and held little hope in their fight against evil, only when she was in danger herself did she actually have faith in Buffy. Surprisingly though, Cordelia seemed to be the most sympathetic and understanding in her own way of Buffy's self-imposed exile after killing Angel, even standing up against Xander. Though she did mean well and just wanted to help, her choice of phrasing seemed to make things worse for Buffy, tactlessly calling Buffy a "freak of nature" and Angel as well. At the time of the Homecoming Dance, Buffy and Cordelia were at war trying to reap votes for the dance, verbally arguing(Buffy even calling Cordy a "vapid whore") but came together and made peace when both were captured by the Slayerfest of '99, Cordelia using her confidence to fend off Lyle Gorch(who had mistaken her for Faith) after Buffy killed his wife. After Cordelia and Xander split, Buffy expressed sympathy and understanding towards Cordy's hurt emotions, and encouraged her to be with friends as it helped heal. Cordelia however, reacted hostilely towards her and blamed Buffy for all the bad things that happened to her since she met her. This caused Cordelia to make a wish that Anya granted that Buffy had never come to Sunnydale which had caused her to die in that universe but before that she admitted that things had been better when Buffy was there. Despite this, she showed Buffy occasional acts of kindness such as physically defending Buffy when she was weak, immediately agreeing to drive a distressed and weakened Buffy home with no complaints and helped fight against The Mayor. Upon Buffy's reunion with Angel in Los Angeles, she had asked Cordelia how she was and Cordelia had nervously replied she was fine, soon after leaving Angel and Buffy alone. They did not physically see each other again, Buffy only mentioning once that Glory reminded her of Cordelia but upon Buffy's death, Cordelia was devastated and admitted to Angel that she missed her. She was also overjoyed when Buffy was revealed to be alive, but this did not stop her from mocking her relationship with Angel. Buffy was also told at some point that Cordelia had passed on. In a dream, Buffy(who had been thrown back in 1997) told Willow that some day Cordelia would be dead after she had teased her, saying it rather flippantly. Despite their differences though, Buffy did consider Cordelia a friend and both seemed to care and have respect for each other.




 * Oz - Buffy and Oz have always gotten along extremely well. Oz has great respect for Buffy and would always follow her orders without question. When she enrolled in UC Sunnydale, she had confided in him her unbearable roommate Kathy Newman, which raised a cause of concern for Oz how angry she had been. Oz had also agreed without question to give the Gem of Amarra to her ex-boyfriend Angel on Buffy' s order since he had a gig there anyway. Like the other Scoobies, Oz was angry with Parker for using Buffy for sex and "wanted to smack him", expressing sympathy towards her. Buffy liked Oz with Willow, believing him to be good for her at the time and had defended him and Willow's feelings for him against her boyfriend Riley who had a black-and-white view of humans and monsters, insisting that Oz couldn't help the way he was and that love wasn't rational. Years later, Buffy was happy for Oz being able to have a family in Tibet and he had gave some much needed help to them when they were hiding from Twilight, letting them temporally lose their powers.




 * Kendra Young — The two Slayers at first started as opposing forces. Buffy being annoyed and estranged with Kendra's lack of social skills and tact while Kendra disapproved of Buffy's unrestricted methods of fighting evil and her relationship with the vampire Angel. When they were forced to work together in order to stop Drusilla, Buffy was greatly concerned for Angel while Kendra was more insistent in dealing with the problem in an organized fashion that required being ordered by their Watchers. This led to Kendra abandoning Buffy who then got apprehended by Spike's goons. However, Kendra arrived in the nick of time to aid Buffy in saving Angel. There Kendra witnessed Buffy's love for Angel and helped her carry Angel out the burning building. Upon departing, Buffy lent Kendra her sweater and tried to hug her before Kendra claimed "I don't hug". Kendra did however show approval for her relationship with Angel, on the grounds she that she found him "pretty cute". When Kendra arrived back to Sunnydale, she and Buffy were instantly on friendly terms and at that time both showed affection to one another, Kendra giving Buffy her lucky stake Mr. Pointy. While mourning Kendra's death, Buffy even claimed to Spike that she lost a friend that day.




 * Anne Steele  — Buffy had saved Anne's life from Spike and Drusilla, as Anne had at one point been a vampire worshiper. When Buffy had fled to L.A after killing Angel she met Anne again(who had that point been going by "Lily") and saved her life again from the demon Ken after Anne's boyfriend had been killed. This act of heroism inspired Anne so much that she had asked Buffy if she could take her middle name "Anne" as her own. Touched by this, Buffy accepted it and Anne inspired her to go back to Sunnydale to face her friends and family.




 * Tara Maclay - Buffy held a deep fondness and affection for Tara. She had willingly stood up for Tara when her parents had thought she was a demon because of being a witch, refusing for them to go past her. After this event, Tara realized the Scooby Gang was her friends and felt more accepted. Tara, like the rest of them, grieved when Buffy passed on but worried about reviving her. After Tara had broken up with Willow, Buffy had told her about Spike's chip not reacting when he had hit her and asked Tara to check if she came back wrong. Tara had told her she didn't but she was different a little after being revived as her soul was channeled back in her body. Buffy had accidentally let it slip out that she had been having sex with Spike while in tears, insisting that it was a mistake. Tara was slightly uncomfortable at this information but placated her by saying it was okay if she did or didn't love him. Buffy, while in tears, confessed to her that she had been using Spike for sex and for her to not "forgive her". Tara had comforted a distraught Buffy and promised she wouldn't tell anyone what she told her, a promise she kept until everyone else had figured it out themselves. Seeing her breakdown, Tara became protective of Buffy towards Spike and often tried to stop Spike's sexual advances on her. At her death, Buffy was noticeably sad and, much later, had a dream of Tara telling her that "I still blame you for my death" but it was merely a dream. Since Tara's death, Buffy has developed a strong dislike of guns as when Xander had told her about owning a gun, Buffy had said, "I don't like them. They keep killing my friends.", a reference to Tara's death.


 * Sam Finn  — Buffy initially felt awkward with Sam, as she was now married to Riley, her ex-boyfriend. But, while alone with her, Sam had told her that she was a "legend" in more ways than being the Slayer, expressing admiration towards her, and being very kind to her. Buffy had privately noted to Riley that she " kinda loved her too" and that she did like her, moving past the awkwardness. Sam showed no insecurities towards Buffy, as she was already knew that Riley was hers and she had no reason to be jealous. Later, Sam freely admitted on how Riley would always want to help Buffy and encouraged him to be true to himself and help her, which Riley eventually did despite his initial reservations.


 * Clem — Buffy first met Clem when Spike had dragged her along to a game of kitten poker but had stayed out of it, instead choosing to be drunk. Given Clem's pleasant and peaceful nature, she invited him to her birthday party and became friends with him. She also trusted him enough to watch over her sister Dawn when Spike had already left. When she was training potentials, they had even hugged like old friends.


 * Robin Wood - Buffy developed an attraction towards Wood and even agreed to go on a date with him though their relationship never materialized into anything other than friendship after Buffy found out he was the son of an earlier slayer, due to Buffy's unresolved feelings for Spike which he quickly picked up on after he interrupted their "first date." Their friendship became strained after Wood's efforts to try and kill Spike out of vengeance for his mother. This act caused Buffy to warn him that Spike would kill him next time he tried something like this and that she would let him kill Wood. When Faith revealed that she had slept with Robin, Buffy expressed shock at this which Faith misinterpreted as hurt. Buffy however corrects her statement, insisting that they were just "very good friends" or "mortal enemies, depending on the day." Later, Buffy relocates to San Francisco and goes to him for advice on pregnancy, Wood genuinely saying that she wasn't his mother, as she had done things she never could.


 * Andrew Wells  — Andrew attempted to be a villain in The Trio, doing rather ridiculous stunts in an attempt to finish off the Slayer but repeatedly failing. Eventually, Buffy had let Andrew and Jonathan shelter from Dark Willow who had been out to kill them and afterwards he retreated to Mexico. Upon returning to Sunnydale, he had been captured by Willow who had discovered him with pig's blood. Andrew was then kept as a willing "hostage"(preferably a "guestage") by the Scoobies, kept tied to a chair at first. Buffy constantly viewed Andrew as a annoyance like everyone else and was disgusted by the fact that he killed Jonathan by orders of The First. When Andrew had been trying to film what she did, Buffy was against it completely, believing what she does too important to film, even threatening to smash his camera over his head. She had also lead Andrew to believe that she was trying to kill him as blood was needed to quiet the seal but after Andrew, in tears, expressed his guilt over Jonathan's death, Buffy stopped as the seal needed tears, not blood. Once the battle with The First was over, she let Andrew stay with the Scooby Gang, and even ordered him to get the psychotic Slayer Dana by any means necessary. However Buffy seemed to become more used to Andrew's annoying habits and develop a fondness for him, as she had saved him from rogue slayer Simone and forgave him for his previous mistakes, admitting that he was part of the family and should get used to making stupid mistakes with good intentions, causing Andrew to finally feel accepted. She had also invited him to her Scooby Gang meeting, though stated it "was just to be polite", despite genuinely caring about him. However, upon discovering that Andrew had made a Buffybot in order for Buffy to have a normal life (conveniently forgetting about periods and eating habits causing her to believe she was pregnant), Buffy was furious at this despite his good intentions and it noticeably affected their friendship.


 * Rowena and Leah — Some of her top slayers, Buffy developed comradely with them, but Satsu was her favorite concerning skills.


 * Anaheed and Tumble - Buffy's roommates after migrating to San Francisco. She seemed to get along well with them, but it was strained after they realized she was the slayer. Fearing for their safety, they made Buffy move out.


 * Robert Dowling - Buffy and SFPD detective Robert Dowling initially got off on the wrong foot, as he and his partner were investigating a series of murders, which he himself believed to be of vampires, and because he personally saw Buffy stake a vampire, leading to her escaping police custody and becoming a fugitive. However, both Buffy and Dowling subsequently discovered that the real culprit behind the murders was Severin, a superhuman vampire hunter with the ability to drain mystical beings of their power and life with his touch; Dowling subsequently saved Buffy from being drained of her powers by shooting and severely wounding Severin, and told her that, while she would not get a public apology for his mistake, she was nevertheless cleared of all charges, with Buffy thanking him for saving her.
 * Billy Lane - Buffy met Billy through their shared desire to beat back the rise of zompires and the continuous problems that have consequently been plaguing the world since the end of magic. Being practical, she accepted him swiftly and without complaint, even going as far to say that he "belonged".

Familial



 * Joyce Summers  — When Buffy was called as the new Vampire Slayer, she had made a habit of lying to her mother and hiding slaying from her for a long time. Joyce was quite distressed at her daughter keeping secrets and often worried about her rebellious nature, initially believing Buffy was a delinquent. However when Buffy was attempting to stop Acathla, her mother found out about Buffy's slaying. Overwhelmed, she had initially wanted her to stop slaying but became more used to it over time. Joyce and Buffy have always had a very loving, deep relationship. When Joyce's health was beginning to deteriorate, Buffy was constantly at her side and worried for her very much, relieved when she seemed to becoming better. However Joyce passed on due to aneurism, Buffy was grief-stricken. While talking with Angel, she admitted that her mother was always the strongest one and that she didn't know what to do now that she was gone. Much later, Buffy had a strange dream where she had been thrown back in 1997, back when her mother was still alive. Reunited with her mother, Buffy was overjoyed and hugged her, telling her that she loved her and wished she could stay there with her forever.


 * Hank Summers  — Following immediately after her parent's divorce, Buffy often had father/daughter weekends with Hank, though over time this occurrence became less until it vanished completely. Despite being their father, neither Buffy nor Dawn could rely on his promises nor would he play the role of their father, which had caused Buffy to consider Giles as more of a father-figure. Buffy did however, in 1997, spend a summer with him and it was earlier revealed that one of Buffy's nightmares was that her father had divorced Joyce because of her. Hank took on the stereotype of upper class deadbeat dead, and Buffy remained to have a distant relationship with him.




 * Rupert Giles  — Giles became her watcher upon her move to Sunnydale, posing as the school's high school librarian and had tried to convince a reluctant Buffy to be the Slayer again. Eventually, Buffy gave in and continued slaying as well as being trained by Giles. Giles held originally a negative view on her at first, revealed when Wesley was reading through Gile's early Watcher notes, describing her as "Willful and insolent" and "Her abuse of the English language is such that I can only understand every other sentence." but developed a close, fatherly bond with Buffy. Giles became the father Buffy always wanted(since hers was never around) and Buffy became the daughter he never had. Their relationship became strained however when, under order of the Watcher's Council, he had Buffy go through her Cruciamentum, where she had temporarily lost her powers and had tested her up against a vampire. Buffy was initially disgusted that Giles had betrayed her trust, but then moved when he had stood up to the Watcher's Council about it. This act had prompted Giles to be fired from the Watcher's Council, as he had a "father's love for Buffy" and therefore "useless to the cause." Once unemployed, Spike had preyed on Giles' insecurities, saying that Buffy treated him without respect and found him useless and fearing that this was true, he had gotten drunk, much to Buffy's annoyance. Giles then told Willow that he was going back to England, believing Buffy to no longer need him as her watcher but was stopped by Buffy, who claimed that she wanted to start training with him again and understand her true nature. Upon Buffy's death, Giles was distraught and had agreed to give Anya full ownership of the Magic Box once he had left for England but he never did right away, not wanting to leave but eventually did. However he returned immediately when told of Buffy's revival, immensely happy but also worried about the risk Willow took for the spell. Over time though, Giles worried that he was holding her back from embracing her adult duties and this sadly prompted him to leave for England, being one of the factors that caused a angry, vulnerable, and alone Buffy to embark on a highly destructive sexual relationship with Spike. Giles though returned and helped her with Dark Willow before he left again. He helped her with the potentials but disagreed with Buffy keeping Spike alive, believing him to be too dangerous and that Buffy's feelings for him were clouding her judgement. He had gone behind Buffy's back and agreed to left Robin Wood kill Spike, which had caused their relationship to be strained. They then went through another setback when Giles had chosen Faith's side over hers, after Faith had almost killed her which had progressed another falling out. They eventually made peace, only for Giles to have his neck snapped by a Twilight-possessed Angel. Buffy was grief-stricken by seeing her beloved watcher and father-figure getting killed, prompting her to destroy the Seed of Wonder. In his will, Giles had left Buffy the book he had given her long ago Vampyr , Faith interpreting it as Giles seeing her as the true Slayer and that she was still "number one son."




 * Dawn Summers  — Buffy had a strained sibling relationship with Dawn at first. Buffy was annoyed with how her mother always treated Dawn like the baby and Dawn envied how Buffy seemed to get special treatment at times. Buffy however, grew greatly protective of her when Glory was after The Key, and tried her utmost to protect Dawn from her. Spike even said once that if anything happened to Dawn, it would destroy her. When she realized that Dawn was the one to open the portal to Glory's dimension and the way to stop that would be to kill her, Buffy refused, insisting that she would kill anyone who tries to kill Dawn and that she will not sacrifice Dawn's life. When Dawn tried to sacrifice herself in order to close the portal, Buffy stopped her, telling her that she will always love her and for her to life, effectively sacrificing her life instead of her sister's. When Buffy was resurrected, Dawn was ecstatic but over time, began to worry that Buffy was intentionally ignoring her due to her never being around(as Buffy was with Spike) and Buffy eventually told her that wasn't the case and that she wanted to see her sister grow up and see the world. After her mother's death, Buffy became Dawn's guardian and took up a mother/sister-type role in her life. Buffy has enormous amounts of love towards Dawn and during the final battle with The First, ordered Xander unsuccessfully to take her away from the fight, much to Dawn's chagrin. Despite Buffy's great love for her sister, Buffy later admits that if she had to sacrifice Dawn to save the world, she would this time, as her duty as the Slayer is far more important than her personal feelings. Dawn and Buffy grew distant as Dawn became a giant and worried that Buffy was so caught up with her new "Slayer sisters" that she completely forgot about her, even seeing Willow as a better sister than Buffy at the time. However this eventually went away due to Dawn and Buffy reconciling, and following the end of magic, Dawn and Xander had let Buffy live in their apartment with her temporally until she decided to move out.

Antagonistic

 * Darla  — Darla had an immediate dislike of her, Buffy being a Slayer of course. Though it was also because her former lover Angel had feelings for Buffy, which disgusted her. She had attempted to kill Buffy's mother Joyce which had caused Buffy great anger towards Darla. When meeting and hearing that she was Angel's sire, being comparatively older than him, Buffy claimed Darla looked a little "worn around the eyes" (obviously referring to her vampiric visage). Darla had then tried to kill Buffy but was killed by Angel instead. Four years later, Darla now human, expressed jealousy towards Buffy, furious that she had made Angel happy and she couldn't, reasoning that she was "just new."


 * The Master  – The Master was an object of great fear towards Buffy as she had a nightmare of their confrontation and her lose at his will. Her fear of him was combined with her fear of being buried underground during the astral projection of a child's dream. Though faced with the odds of being killed by him, Buffy still confronted the Master as her quick-witted self, but was easily killed. When brought back, Buffy readily confronted him and ended as the victor. Nonetheless, Buffy still feared the Master, dreaming of him posing as Giles and attacking her. This finally ended when she smashed his bones, preventing his return.


 * Principal Snyder  — Principal Snyder had a natural hatred towards teenagers but it was Buffy he especially disliked. He had constantly viewed her as a rebellious delinquent and more than often, expected her to be expelled from Sunnydale High. He could not understand Giles' faith in her and was often riding Buffy for every little suspicious thing she did (which was a lot as Buffy was caught by him many times trying to save students and being the Slayer). Buffy in turn found him a constant bane in her school life as her friends did and often mocked him. Snyder took great pleasure in expelling her and preventing her from returning. When Snyder was eaten by The Mayor-turned giant snake, she showed little remorse.


 * Wesley Wyndam-Pryce  — Wesley became Buffy and Faith's Watcher after Giles was fired for interfering with the former's Cruciamentum. Buffy, who was already furious at the Watcher's Council for temporarily taking away her Slayer powers, showed absolutely no respect for Wesley, making it clear that she saw Giles as her (unofficial) Watcher and mocking him whenever she had the chance. Buffy's hatred for Wesley deepened when Wesley, offended that the Scoobies didn't tell him about Faith killing a human civilian, sent in a bunch of Watcher operatives to capture her, unaware that Angel was about to get through to her and make her realize the severity of her actions; when Wesley later asked them what he could do to help, Buffy snidely replied, "You still got your ticket back to the mother country (England)?" Wesley got under the Scoobies' skin again when he suggested that they should let Willow die at the Mayor's hands than hand over the Box of Gavrok, which was essential for the Mayor's ascension. The final straw came, however, when Buffy asked Wesley to ask the Council's assistance to save Angel, who was shot by Faith with a lethal poison and slowly dying. When Wesley replied that the Council refused to help Angel on the grounds that he was a vampire, an enraged Buffy cut off all ties from the Council and told him that she wasn't taking his orders anymore. Despite this, Wesley offered his services in the final fight against the Mayor, saying that he wasn't helping on the orders of the Council, but only wanted to help. Buffy's cold attitude to him softened a bit afterwards, saying that "it was a start." Wesley revealed to Angel later that he was fired from the Council, since he had "two Slayers in (his) care" and that one was comatose (Faith) while the other refused to follow the Council (Buffy). When Buffy and Wesley later met in Los Angeles, Buffy showed no outright hostility towards him, though this was likely due to the fact that she was focused on capturing Faith at the time. Buffy has since not commented on Wesley since his death.


 * Kathy Newman  — Buffy's first roommate in UC Sunnydale, she had intense hatred towards Kathy. This is because of the certain rather annoying quirks that she had and Buffy hated. Her hatred towards her eventually grew into a psychosis, but this was ultimately taken care of when Kathy had been sent to another dimension, much to Buffy's satisfaction. Her roommate was then replaced with her Buffy's best friend Willow.


 * Harmony Kendall  — Harmony, being part of Cordelia's clique, had a natural disdain for Buffy. Upon turning into a vampire after Graduation, Harmony attempts to be more independent after leaving Spike and tried to be Buffy's arch-nemesis. Buffy viewed Harmony as a nuisance and an annoyance, even bursting out laughing when finding out Harmony had minions and wanted to kill her. However she became much more serious when Harmony kidnapped Dawn (who had a plan to use her sister as bait and then kill her), but was quickly thwarted by Buffy, taunting her by being bad as a head cheerleader, being really bad at chair at homecoming queen, but completely sucking by trying to be evil. Harmony also hated Buffy for being the object of Spike's obsession/affections, shown to be very disgusted when hearing about him being involved with Buffy a couple years later.


 * Glory  — Glory was obsessed with finding the key, which was actually Dawn, Buffy's little sister. Buffy hated Glory, comparing her to Cordelia, and was very determined to protect Dawn with her life. Glory and Buffy got into many fights, until she eventually found out who the key is. Relentless, she forced Buffy and her friends to be on the run. In the end they had a final fight but Buffy refused to kill her, having reverted to Ben, an innocent human.


 * Warren Mears  — Buffy had initially saved him and helped him with the sex bot April, but this did nothing to Warren as he decided to want to become a villain, forming The Trio. He, Andrew, and Jonathan had unsuccessfully tried to kill Buffy a lot, even injecting Buffy with a liquid that made her think she was imagining Sunnydale and it's monsters. He had also attempted to frame Buffy into the murder of his ex-girlfriend who he himself had killed, even convincing Buffy herself was the one responsible. Humiliated at this loss, he had bought a gun and shot Buffy, almost killing her. until saved by Willow. Despite her open disgust towards Warren's murder of Tara as well as attempted murder of her, Buffy was against killing Warren, since he was human and that being The Slayer didn't give her a license to kill non-supernaturals. After being flayed alive by Willow and brought back skinless thanks to witch Amy Madison. he bore a considerable grudge against both Willow and Buffy for ruining all his schemes. He had even teamed up with General Voll to take down Buffy and her army.


 * Kennedy  — Due to Kennedy's outspoken and confrontational personality, she had often verbally clashed with Buffy over her decisions as leader. Buffy, used to being leader as well as people naturally following her orders, found this frustrating and annoying. She has respect for Kennedy's Slayer skills but also has a natural dislike for her and her ways. Realizing that Buffy had a lesbian experience with Satsu, Kennedy had immediately told her to stay away from Willow, calling her a "lez faux" and remained openly suspicious of their relationship, despite both Willow and Buffy loudly denying any attraction to each other. However, despite her mild dislike of her, when seeing a flying Buffy in mid-air, Kennedy was surprised to realize she found the action hot and she was attractive. Following the end of magic, Buffy surprisingly felt sympathy when Willow had broken up with Kennedy and had even defended her against her, believing that their relationship was more than just Willow being magical (which she felt owed her a lot of credit since she rarely ever took Kennedy's side); consequently though, Kennedy had blamed Buffy for everything that happened. Despite this, it was revealed that though she still held a grudge against her, Kennedy was the only known slayer she kept in contact with following the end of magic, and she would later reunite with Kennedy in Deepscan. They seemed to form a truce but still clashed with each other, as Kennedy criticized her of not knowing how to do anything but slaying and soon after, blamed Buffy for being so focused on saving the world that she allowed other people to die, like she did with Giles. This remark prompted a furious Buffy to punch her in the face, giving her a black eye, angrily insisting that no one was dying. After saving Theo Daniels and destroying TinCan, Kennedy surprisingly praised her for her efforts, even giving her a check and promotion, only for Buffy to shoot down the offer.


 * Simone Doffler - Buffy greatly disliked Simone, mainly because the younger, violent Slayer preferred using modern weapons such as guns (which Buffy hated), but also because Simone believed that Slayers should use their abilities for their own benefit rather than helping mankind. Simone's selfish and depraved activities, which included robbery and murder, helped boost the already-bad name Slayers had amongst the press, and turned countless people against Buffy (who was considered equally bad by just being a Slayer). Simone eventually went rogue and kidnapped Andrew. Buffy fought against her and saved him, only for Simone to run away. As time went on, Simone became a bigger threat and now resolved to kill Buffy.


 * Eldre Koh - Originally an ally, as Buffy was the one who freed him from his prison so it was his code to be bound into obedience to her, he later betrayed her and offered up Theo Daniels (Buffy's client in Deepscan) to Wolfram & Hart, telling her that vengeance on the one who had imprisoned him was much more important to him than honor. He soon after fought Buffy, only to escape as Kennedy saved Theo.

Other

 * Jenny Calendar  — Buffy's relationship with Jenny Calendar was a teacher/student-type. Buffy held Jenny with respect and seemed to like her, supporting Giles' relationship with her, genuinely realizing how happy she made him. Upon Angel's time as Angelus, Jenny felt guilty and believed she could have stopped or at least delayed it. Buffy, however,was furious and blamed her for the loss of Angel's soul, ostracizing her completely afterwards, until eventually forgiving her for Giles sake. She expressed great sympathy towards Buffy's emotional state of mind, and had tried her utmost to find a way to return Angel's soul. She had eventually find the spell needed for her goal, wanting to make it up to both Buffy and Angel. Unfortunately, Jenny's neck was snapped by Angelus and when told of this, Buffy felt crushing guilt over Jenny's fate, and admitted to Giles that she was sorry that she couldn't kill Angel before that happened.


 * Whistler  — Buffy had at first regarded Whistler with hostility, threatening immediately to "tear out his ribcage and wear it as a hat", and found certain quirks of his personality exasperating and annoying. But gave Buffy advice on her being prepared for certain consequences that later came to pass. He also admitted a physical attraction to her, saying that he now understood why Angel had lost his soul in her. This, however, did not stop Whistler from encouraging Angel to take up the alias of "Twilight" and lead the forces against Buffy, her friends, and her Slayer army. Admittedly, Whistler informed Angel that in all the futures he saw with his clairvoyant powers, Buffy and Angel would die if they worked together, and that the only way they could live was for Angel to become Buffy's enemy. Following the end of magic, Whistler blamed Angel for rejecting his role in the Twilight prophecy, at the time unaware that it was Buffy who convinced Angel to do so by rejecting her role as well. Unbeknowest to Buffy, Whistler had caused Angel to meet her the day she was called because both of them were inevitably fated to meet for the sake of the ancient prophecy consisting of recreation, centering around both herself and a vampire with a soul, specifically Angel.


 * Jonathan Levinson  – During her years at Sunnydale High, Buffy saved Jonathan's life many times from demonic forces, including (but not limited to) the revived mummy of an Incan princess and parasitic, face-hugging demons. These rescues did not go unnoticed, since Jonathan was the person to give Buffy an award for saving the lives of many Sunnydale High students time and again. Also, when Jonathan prepared to kill himself out of despair and wanting to be recognized, Buffy confronted him and talked him out of it (though she mistakenly believed that he was planning to commit murder), and, several months after high school, Buffy lectured Jonathan on the consequences of his using a spell to make everyone adore him. Jonathan became Buffy's enemy when he joined The Trio, although, unlike Warren and (at first) Andrew, Jonathan wasn't interested in killing her at all, due to his gratitude for her saving his life countless times (as well as the fact that he found her "hot"). When Warren went overboard and began killing innocent people, Jonathan decided to betray the group, and told Buffy how to defeat Warren (who developed super-powers through the Orbs of Nezzla'Khan). Buffy's anger towards him softened a bit afterwards, and she protected him and Andrew when Willow, consumed with revenge, attempted to kill them for being associated with Warren. Buffy was shocked upon hearing of Jonathan's death, and showed disgust at Andrew for killing him.


 * Anya Jenkins  — When Anya first started going out with Xander, Buffy (like the rest of the Scooby Gang) disliked her and her tactless, inappropriate nature. Anya had noted this but insisted that none of the Scoobies looked down on her, unlike they do Xander. Throughout the years, Buffy and Anya became closer, even friends and after the death of Buffy's mother, a saddened Anya loudly stated "I wish Joyce didn't die!" in an attempt of sympathy. Surprisingly, Buffy did not take offense instead thanking her as she by the that time understood her way of communicating. Buffy's death, Anya admitted that she did miss Buffy but life shouldn't stop just because she was dead. Upon Buffy's resurrection, Anya had tried to cheer up a traumatized Buffy by revealing her engagement to Xander but was quickly reprimanded of the inappropriate gesture by Xander. She had also tactlessly kept saying that Buffy had returned from hell, much to everyone's annoyance. Anya had also kindly offered to give Buffy a job at the Magic Box in retail, but after a disastrous day (dubbed the "hour that wouldn't end" by Buffy), she permanently rejected it, since it "bored her to tears." Anya had also expressed her pain at Xander leaving her at the alter, unsuccessfully trying to get Buffy to turn against him. Following Anya's return as a vengeance demon and murder of several frat boys, Buffy resolved to kill Anya despite Xander's intervention, and had fought with Anya. Anya had waved off Xander's attempts to stop her and noted that Buffy's pattern is always trying to kill her friends. However, in the end, Buffy didn't kill her as Anya was turned human again. This event seemed to permanently end their friendship as despite sharing with Buffy her jealousy over Xander going out on a date, she had bluntly told Buffy later "Oh, I'm not your friend." Anya had also harshly and openly called Buffy out on thinking she was better than everyone else, saying that she was blessed with special advantages but no one had told her she had deserved them more than anyone else, being one of the many that forced Buffy out of her own house.


 * Melaka Fray  — Buffy was transported into the future, where Fray was the only slayer in the 23th century. They had at first fought with each other, Fray believing her to be a lurk but soon realized that she was fighting a slayer and not just any Slayer either. Upon this discovery, Fray and Buffy soon grew to trust each other and bond. However, when told by Dark Willow that Fray's world would be gone if Buffy returned to her own time. Fray initially was distrustful of this but worried that she was right. This started her to fight Buffy again and stop her from returning to the 21st century. Despite her efforts, Buffy(after stabbing Willow who was in the way), returned anyway and the warning was proved false as her world still existed in the end.

Faith Lehane


The bond that Buffy shares with her fellow Slayer is complex and unique. They have unique insight into each others' personalities, but each often disagreed on what it meant to be a Slayer. Buffy was alienated next to Faith's enthusiasm for violence and lack of responsibility, while Faith did not understand why Buffy compartmentalized her destiny as if it were a job. Additionally, Faith was jealous of the life Buffy led, surrounded by friends and family. Buffy, never one for rules herself, was somewhat drawn to Faith's rebellious nature, but was horrified when Faith fell into reckless abandon and accidentally killed a man. Buffy, however, held hope that Faith can be saved and tried to help her, but Faith rejected her help. Faith then became worse over time working for The Mayor, even poisoning Angel and caused him to be slowly dying. This act infuriated Buffy and the only cure being the blood of a slayer, she quickly chased down Faith and almost murdered her, stabbing her in the stomach with her own knife. Buffy having lost her when she fell on a moving truck, saved Angel by giving him her blood instead. Despite this, Buffy and Faith still shared a fundamental bond as they shared dreams while Faith was in a coma.

Eight months into a coma until finally waking, Buffy initially hoped that Faith had learned her lesson and changed for the better, seeming to care for her well-being. She also appeared to carry guilt over her attempted murder of Faith. However, Faith's jealousy of Buffy's life culminated when doing a "body swap", consequently purposely sleeping with Buffy's boyfriend at the time Riley, much to Buffy's shock and anger. Finding out Faith's whereabouts in L.A, she immediately came there, wanting to get revenge but was also worried about her ex-boyfriend Angel's well-being. She was furious when Angel had taken Faith's side over hers, and before that had an heated argument with her, vehemently pointing out that Faith tried to take everything she has away from her. Buffy believed she was incapable of redemption but eventually settled for Faith to do her time in prison. When Faith returned to Sunnydale to help with The First Evil, Buffy accepted her as an ally and they had a tenuous alliance. Faith tried to follow Buffy's lead, and appeared hesitant to take over leadership after the mutiny against Buffy. However, Buffy surprised Faith by encouraging her to be the leader since someone had to. The First (in the form of Mayor Wilkins) also revealed what Faith couldn't admit: She always wanted Buffy to accept her, to love her even. After Buffy and the gang reconciled, Buffy and Faith discuss their contentious history, coming to the conclusion that they could never get along because two slayers aren't supposed to exist at the same time (Buffy also pointing out that fact that Faith went about killing people which Faith acknowledges) With this, the two finally make peace. However, when Buffy was transported to London where Faith was going undercover to kill a homicidal slayer, Buffy jumped to the conclusion that Faith was evil again and proceeded to attack her with Faith quickly getting the upper hand and almost drowning her in an act of desperation. Buffy, infuriated and hurt, fell out of speaking terms with father-figure Giles following his partnership with Faith. Eventually though, when forced to lose their slayer powers, Buffy and Faith finally develop a still somewhat strained friendship. Following the death of Giles, Faith openly admitted that Buffy was the "true slayer" and gave her the Vampyr slayer handbook that he had left her in his will. Buffy also trusted Faith enough to deal with Angel's catatonia when she couldn't bring herself to, the cause of Giles's death still too fresh in her mind.

During her time in London, Faith tells a slayer she's been watching over called Nadira that her relationship with Buffy is "complicated."

Behind the Scenes

 * Sarah Michelle Gellar always believed her character was meant to end up with Angel, and was often legitimately emotional during Buffy-Angel scenes. In "The Prom", she could not stop crying while filming the breakup scene, and the set was closed for nearly half an hour to allow her to recover. In "I Will Remember You", David Boreanaz was actually comforting her (he can be heard whispering "Sarah") because she wanted Buffy and Angel to end up together, and was actually crying. Sarah has continued to prefer the Buffy/Angel relationship (where she calls the relationship "Love in it's truest, most pure form").


 * The writers have often toyed with the concept of Buffy and her best male friend Xander being a romantic couple. Xander had a crush on Buffy, but it was unrequited, with Buffy actually rejecting him when he finally admitted his feelings. When Buffy found herself greatly attracted to Xander while under the influence of a love spell, she was grateful to him for not taking advantage of the situation. More recently, Buffy experiences a strange dream in which she propositions Xander and kisses him on the lips, causing his head to pop off. Jane Espenson claims in the DVD commentary for "I Was Made To Love You" that "it certainly was set up that the two of them should end up together". Sarah Michelle Gellar has gone on record as saying, "I honestly believe [Joss'] original intention was to put Xander and Buffy together. I really do believe that."


 * Sarah Michelle Gellar was the one to jokingly suggest Spike become a love interest; upon hearing this Joss Whedon was initially quoted as saying "No more vampires!" Sarah was later a very vocal detractor of the Buffy/Spike relationship as it was portrayed in season 6, feeling it was degrading both to the character and the actress.


 * During scenes in which they were set to appear nude; James Marsters was required to wear a prosthetic sock over his genitialia. Sarah Michelle Gellar notoriously tortured him by tugging on the sock in between takes.


 * Joss has often spoken of the Buffy/Angel relationship as one of both true love and tragedy, confirming at a Paleo center event that while it may not have been "legal" (speaking about the age difference) that it was definitely "real" and "love".


 * Joss described Angel and Spike as "the two most important men in Buffy's life" (Entertainment Weekly, 5-03).


 * Joss said the following about the shooting of the final televised scene between Buffy and Spike in the hellmouth in the Chosen DVD commentary: "I thought that this was a sort of romantic image, the two of them. We actually did it with real fire but their hands were all gelled up and you could tell, so this was added CGI, and looks beautiful. I thought it was a nice comment on their relationship. But what I basically told them was "Play the romance. Be proud of him. Love him when you say you love him. Love her when you say she doesn't love you. Forget about the crumbling world. For that period of time it doesn't exist."


 * Asked in an interview which of Buffy's relationship he preferred, Joss Whedon said: "You know what, I liked Spike. With Angel it’s too “Romeo and Juliet”. Which means, as soon as it happens you’re bored. Riley, you know he was a well-adjusted person who loved her in a much, much healthier way than the other two guys. Nobody wants to see that. With Buffy and Spike, they had a real Beatrice and Benedick kind of relationship, in “Much Ado About Nothing”. I think with the wedding, she would have tried to do something fast, but he would have made it elaborate and done everything wrong. It would have been extraordinarily counter-intuitive, and awesome!" BUFFY the Vampire Slayer, Joss Whedon and Katie Lucas